June 24, 2008
A view to pre-relationships
Of wood, water, and touch.
I like how the branches frame the sunset with a heart shape.
That’s the lure of this spot on the globe. It pulls at the emotions and possesses a serenity that will calm you, no matter what your day may have been like.
It’s hard to have a stressful day here.
The view above is what accompanied my eyes at dinner last night. Charles and I went over to our friend Mark’s magical indentation in the land on the northeast shoulder of the island. His home clings to rocks that cling to tree roots that cling to more rocks that cling to the sea. Water rhythms beat quietly under the deck and my gaze cannot help scanning beyond the humans next to me, out to an ever-shifting palette of space and color.
A brilliant entrepreneur and scholar, Mark is also a fabulous cook who takes the same care with every detail of an ingredient that I do with each detail of a note. Phrasing, tempo and dynamics of flavors are assessed and balanced. They arrive on our tongues as a big, double-forte grin. An invitation to dinner with him is a gift; a guarantee of compelling substance, in both food and conversation. He could easily be a pro chef if he so chose, but is wise enough to know that it’s more fun to cook on delight rather than on demand. I know some composers who would agree.
My first glimpse of this view was when I stumbled across Mark’s blog almost two years ago. He wrote of his move here and what it meant to him. I stared at his photos, entranced, for long periods of time as I prepared to relocate my own life to this latitude. Months later in a Friday Harbor coffee shop, peering over my laptop I noticed a fellow working at his own. I remembered the face from a fleeting blog photo, and walked over to say hello. Dumbfounded that anyone would recognize him, I think Mark may have even blushed as he enjoyed his 15 minutes of local fame.
The blogosphere does more than connect me with clients, patrons and colleagues; it creates a serendipity of connection that nourishes me with wonderful vistas, food, and new friends. I think a lot about the meaning of technology in my life as an artist, and how easy it is to allow people around the world to become familiar with my music. But I’m constantly struck by the pre-relationships the internet fosters: the feeling that we “know” someone before ever having met them, due to the words and pictures they share with anyone willing to observe.
Every single time I traveled this year to speak at or participant in a music conference, I invariably met people with whom I already had pre-relationships via the web. Perhaps we were MySpace friends who enjoyed each other’s audio clips. Perhaps we had emailed a few times about one of my chamber works. Perhaps they were avid readers of my blog, or I was of theirs. Perhaps we had spent time perusing each other’s websites or, in that most post-modern pursuit, commenting on other blogs about each other’s blog comments. Enpixelated representations of people I “knew†on Facebook, LinkedIn, Classical Lounge, or any other social networking site, suddenly blossomed into life and three-dimensional pheromones, right in front of me. Everywhere I went, it would seem that someone would come up to me out of the blue and introduce themselves with the same knowing delight as I did to Mark last year. And like Mark, I would take a moment to get used to the idea that this person already “knew†me in several significant ways.
The digital interconnectivity we share has changed the manner by which we learn about each other. Upon hearing of someone, many of us immediately launch into a little game of due diligence by Googling them for context. No longer do we wait for someone to unpeel themselves slowly; we are all social onions with many layers, and the outer ones have already been exposed. I like the efficiency of this, but even more, I like the surprises that come with getting to know someone after you think you pre-know them. Just as with life in the physical plane, I’ve learned to take in a great view and resist making assumptions about the layers beyond the last wisps of clouds.
Doug Palmer said,
June 27, 2008 @ 9:46 am
One of life’s most sublime rewards is to meet someone face to face who you have only read about or heard about or even just seen at another table in a coffee shop.
The inevitable initial impression combining all your assumptions and prejudices is shattered in an instant as you realize that ultimately you know nothing in reality about anyone at all.
It’s a moment of enlightenment that breathes life into a mind otherwise in a rut.
In spite of what Professor Schickele says, a boggled mind is often a very rewarding thing.
Barry said,
June 28, 2008 @ 7:23 am
Alex,
What a lovely way to put it, pre-know or pre-knowing of someone. We only get glimpses of many of our fellow sojourners in this event we call life. How little we really know one another at all it seems sometimes. The net has brought this glimpsing to a new level of exploration at a pace we can moderate. One link leads to another and we can hover over a blog or site to learn of one another as long as our time or patience allows. Then jump to somewhere or someone else in the flick of a digit. Sometimes the rabbit holes make the journey pleasant and connected. Other times wonder how these links are remotely connected.
When one finds delightful persons to explore and thoughtful musings to meander through it makes it worth the traveling. This is what I love about your blog and essays. I can return to the places I find so refreshing and provoking and know the content will be worth the trip. Thanks for the light.
Putting the person with the web presence into the present moment is a connection to be cherished, unless they are paparazzi. (I just watch a YouTube of surfers vs. paparazzi on your old beach in Malibu.)
Having pre-known you from many days ago, the rediscovery and subsequent following of your path of creativity has been so wonderful. You are quite connected with the field and the depth you share both in prose and notes is comforting, inspiring as well as helpful.
A few weeks ago I was sitting in the airport waiting to fly away to some class or convention and I used my laptop and headphones to find serenity in the midst of chaos. All I had to do was go to the kelp and look, listen and read. I was swept away and refreshed.
Thanks for all the little steps you take each week to let those of us out here in cyber vista have a place of consistent beauty and multisensory refreshment. We need it. I’m glad to have pre-known and now, I feel, now-know you. Some gifts are meant to be here – you are one of them.
Barry
Glenn Buttkus said,
June 28, 2008 @ 11:52 am
Gosh, this will be my Fourth try at leaving a comment this afternoon. I love your very well thought out treatise on “pre-relationships”. Barry and Doug were both very eloquent about their views. I just discovered this morning that you are represented on Facebook as well as so many other sites. Doug enticed me to be his “friend” after 50 years, and to do so one has to join the Facebook community. Then suddenly your rediscover many old friends have already arrived.
It is certainly true after ghosting through your complete several years of posting on your site, from those first few commentless postings there in Malibu, to the stride you found, complimented by your move to San Juan Island, listening to your music, both on clips and CD, looking at the images of you gracing many corners of your site(s), and the essays and articles you link to, putting my creative juices to task, and actually putting hands on your very words, your prose, and letting them/it blossom into beautiful beats heretofore unknown and untrod–has given me a feeling of “knowing” you. But I never did make it up to your island on vacation, and I missed Doug’s concert, and this last one before your recent sojourn to NYC, so we have not yet had the face time that will happen one day; as inevitable as your joy in hiking about your rock in the sea.
You have become a wizard of negotiating the great Net, and using it professionally and personally–paving the way, throwing creative light into the darkness, for many of we neophytes. I do feel very honored by your focus and attention to my words and thoughts, and I feel fortunate to be standing, or sitting, on line, like at a great ceremonious event, as you trot along smiling, and shaking hands. Being a kelphisto is a great kick.
Glenn
Alex Shapiro said,
June 28, 2008 @ 11:56 am
I am so touched by everyone’s comments! Truly, truly. Thank you. Technology affords us the ability to connect with each other and with each other’s personal worlds in a way we never before could have imagined. I am always so grateful to have this outlet by which to share, and this inlet to the thoughts of friends I might not have otherwise met nor been in touch with.
Alex Shapiro said,
June 28, 2008 @ 12:20 pm
Well, in spite of my stated state of being enamored with the web, the cyber gnomes are up to no good today and prevented Ace Kelphisto Glenn from posting another of his lovely prose mutations (!). Thus, I am posting this on his behalf, from the email I just received from him. Thanks, Glenn.
Alex:
I really warmed and responded to your latest posting. I worked up a smidgen of poetry from your opening comments, and first posted it on FEEL FREE TO READ. Then I honestly tried to post it on your bed of kelp, but four times was my limit. I used your incredible image on FFTR as well, with credit to you of course, for I could not find any subsitute for your mind’s eye and chosen icon.
Of Wood, Water, and Touch
Of wood, water, and touch.
Looking out,
I like how the branches
frame the sunset
with a heart shape.
That’s the lure
of this spot
on the globe.
It pulls
at the emotions
and possesses a serenity
that will calm you,
no matter what your day
may have been like.
It’s hard
to have a stressful day
here.
The view is what
accompanied
my eyes
at dinner last night.
Charles and I
went over
to our friend Mark’s
magical indentation
in the land
on the northeast shoulder
of the island.
His home clings
to rocks
that cling
to tree roots
that cling
to more rocks
that cling
to the sea.
Water rhythms beat
quietly
under the deck
and my gaze
cannot help scanning
beyond the humans
next to me,
out
to an ever-shifting palette
of space and color.
Alex Shapiro June 2008
Hugs: Glenn